This is a fresh new space for Dr. DeYoung’s blog. You will find all of his past blog posts here. They are tagged and placed in categories. Dr. DeYoung writes on couples, families, faith, mental health and even a few current events. Feel free to explore.
GRIEF/PANIC
Lost in Wall Drug As a little boy, I got lost at Wall Drug in South Dakota. I don’t remember much except two overwhelming feelings: grief and panic. I had lost connection with the people who made me feel safe. We often think those feelings belong to childhood, but they don’t. They show up in…
CARE
We Never Outgrow the Need for Care My doctoral research focused on attachment theory and foster parents’ childhood attachment experiences. One of the strongest findings was the importance of substitute attachment figures. Many participants described painful relationships with birth parents, but healing relationships with grandparents, aunts, uncles, or mentors who stepped in and provided care,…
SEEKING
The Anticipation of Connection Photo by Jeremy Bishop on Unsplash Have you ever encountered something—a place, an idea, a person—that made you want to know more? That impulse is not just curiosity. It is part of a core emotional system in the brain called SEEKING. In marriage, this system is essential. It drives the desire…
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